First of all, I'm sorry you are here. But since you are I invite you to read around. Explore the links on the left to find answers to your questions. I hope you will find lots of information that you can use as you figure out how to cope with your husband's midlife crisis and all that midlife crisis men can put you through.
When your husband hits a midlife crisis, your world gets turned on it's head. You have no idea what is going on or why, the sad thing is that generally he doesn't either.
It's as if some alien or demon is now in possession of the mind and body where your husband used to live. It's hard when you don't understand why and most of us spend a long time grappling with this demon trying to find our husband and rescue him.
Eventually we come to realize that it's impossible. Reality is that
you CANNOT rescue him
you CANNOT save him
you CANNOT make him come back
you CANNOT love him back to you
NOTHING you do or say is going to change his journey
But there is something you CAN do.
I see so many women tie themselves in knots, destroy their emotional and physical health trying to please him or appease him.
If that's you, PLEASE STOP IT!
You cannot help him, but you can help yourself. My mission as a coach who works withe wives of midlife crisis men, is to help you to answer two questions and then design yourself a plan from there
1. What and who do you have any control over?
2. What and who do you have any responsibility for?
Let's get this straight, You can only control one person in this world
YOURSELF
You are only responsible for one person in this world
YOURSELF
When you truly understand those two points, you can you start to take care of yourself. Working with a life coach can help you to:
Develop some emotional detachment
Refocus so that how YOU are doing is more important than what he is doing
Build a life YOU will enjoy whether he comes back or not
Figure out what YOU want to do from here
Please read around, post a question on the forum, I hope you will find useful information here. ........
